For men, when it comes to setting out on your first date, it is normal to be nervous and apprehensive yet excited at the same time. Such conflicting emotions as you try and identify what women want in a man can often lead to a date that you’ll quickly want to forget! Below are some tips we have devised to ensure your first date is a roaring success:
While it may be tempting to present a ‘better’ version of yourself when arriving on a first date it is far more relaxing and less stressful to just be yourself. Besides, if the date is going to move forward into a second or third isn’t it going to get tiring to keep trying to ‘up your game’? Plus, showing your real self will leave you in no doubt that she truly likes you for who you are if it does reach the 2nd date stage.
Leave yourself plenty of time
Nothing leads to increased stress and an uncomfortable dating experience more than arriving late. Often not the intention, there are always some hidden variables that can get in the way of a prompt arrival. Whether stuck in traffic, late leaving work or another reason, even with the best intentions you can get held up. Therefore, eliminate the risks by ensuring you arrive at least 15-30 minutes early and that way you’ll have some wiggle room.
Avoid the mundane
One great way to leave a lasting impression and to ensure that you won’t be overly nervous is to do something unique and enjoyable. For example, a joint kayak date on a river will be something fresh and enjoyable that will involve team-work, being active and soaking in the sun. This will not only avoid a more stressful and dull environment such as a restaurant but will also enable you to get more of an insight into your date’s energy levels and personality.
Try an earlier dating time
Whilst often dates take place in the evening, an afternoon or lunchtime date can have some hidden benefits that will reduce stress and anxiety. An evening meetup may raise the thought in her head “Is he going to ask me to come home with him?” which can add another layer of pressure that a first date does not need. By meeting earlier, not only do you both have the whole day ahead of you if the chemistry is present, but you’ll also avoid any end-of-date awkward cognitive thought processes that may arise.
What do you think? Will you apply these ideas when on your next first date? Have you any other ideas on ways to make the first date experience less stressful? Let us know!