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What makes women sexy in the eyes of American men

Sexiness is not just confined to the beauty of someone, it’s more subjective in nature. Sexiness involves not just the external beauty but many other traits like confidence, dressing sense, body language, etc.   

What makes women sexy for American men is a vast subject but there are some common traits that are found to be more attractive to men.

Body language

Body lauguage has a big impact on someone’s mind, no matter whether you are in your best body shape if you can carry yourself with confidence you will keep on attracting more guys.

Start paying more attention to the way you walk, your handshakes, posture you sit, etc. superior body language will make you more attractive.   

Being positive

Your outlook towards different things plays an active role in your attractiveness. We all have that colleague at the office who is always negative, do they look good to you? No, I am sure about it.

Having a negative mindset make you look worst while having a positive outlook towards everything will fill you with joy and will help you look better.


Rightful confidence is one of the sexiest quality a woman can possess, every man want their women to be confident like a queen.  

Personal management

Are you good at personal management? If not, then you should start developing some skills. Men are not looking for ordinary women, most of them are looking for the Wonder Women who are capable of managing the work and home.

No matter how much we talk about gender equality, most of the men are unable to handle everything and that’s the reason they seek women who can team-up with them.  


Men are naturally attracted towards passionate women, most of the American men are not looking for a housewife material, instead, they strongly feel attracted towards women with a passion.


Being honest is a key to success, and men find it incredibly sexy. Honesty is getting uncommon in the world and that’s the reason men are getting attracted towards kind and honest women. He won’t love a woman if he can’t trust her.

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How to boost your sex appeal to attract women.

Sex appeal is one of the biggest assets a man can have, it is one of the major factors that impact women in a positive way.

What exactly is sex appeal? Sex appeal is a quality of being attractive in a sexual way.

Every man has a friend who is damn comfortable and never gets friend zoned with women, let’s discuss the tips that can help in improving your sex appeal.

#1 Dressing sense

The way you dress has a deep impact on how women see you. Sex appeal is not about physical attributes but it’s about how elegantly you carry yourself and how presentable you are. Here are some tips to dress well.

  • Get everything adjusted, yes, your body size and shape changes all the time, it’s important to maintain an inventory of well-fitted clothes.
  • Spend more money on fewer clothes, high-quality clothes last longer and will make you look way better.
  • Gym shoes are for the gym, not date or office. Maintains a different pair of formal and office wear shoes.
  • Always have a habit of wearing nice perfume.

#2 Workout 5 time a week

Apart from good dressing, another thing that she is going to notice about you is your body structure.

She is not expecting you to have a 6 or 8 pack abs, but she is expecting you to have a decent shaped body. Getting attracted to the beautiful body is hardwired in our brain and it’s important to condition your body on regular basis.

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#3 Grooming

We have already talked about dressing sense, but self-grooming is equally important.

If you love the beard, learn to keep them in shape. Visit your barber in every 15 days of time and learn how to use hair wax and gel properly.

It’s a modern world and she will be expecting a little bit of grooming from you.

#4 Body language

This is one of the most common things that most of the men forget about.

Start working on confident body language, if you are not sure how to maintain strong body language then its advisable to join some workshops or seek an expert advice.

Body language plays a psychological role in her brain and she will see you as an attractive adult. Here are some tips to improve your body language:

  • Practice smiling, it displays confidence.
  • Pay attention to posture, maintain erect spine with widened shoulder position.
  • Use power poses.
  • Use of engaged body language.
  • Have a firm handshake.
  • Dress for confidence, wear the best clothes that make you feel confident and attractive.


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It’s true! Women still dig confident men

For years there has always been an appeal for confident men. We might argue that in previous centuries, it was mainly because the men were expected to go out there and fend for their families. And for most cultures, most of the time, it was hunting. So confident in a man meant that he could also be brave enough to face those animals in the woods.

So the women automatically found themselves being attracted to confident macho men.

Fast forward to today Are women still attracted to self-assured men? Definitely yes. One might wonder why this is the case considering they men don’t have to hunt and women are also taking up the roles that men did then. Here are the reasons…

Why women STILL find men with confidence attractive

Confident men ooze sex appeal

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Men who are self-assured will walk right up to a woman and will throw a pickup line that a woman won’t resist. Why? Because when a man approaches a woman with confidence he normally comes off as appealing. They are irresistible. Even a taken woman will entertain you even with a smile before letting you know that she has a dude.

Women don’t like to guess

A man who has confidence will not approach you then leave you filling the blanks. And women don’t like showing their love to a man only to find out later that he didn’t like you in the first place. This is where such men shine. If he likes you, he will tell it like that. So a woman won’t be left wondering.

They appear to have their sh*t together

Confident men usually seem like they have everything sorted in their lives. Career, emotions… you name it. And women love men who have their lives in check. It makes them feel more secure in relationships.

They are fun to hang out with.

couple at a partySuch men usually know where the party at and great places to have fun. These men do their homework. Plus they are great conversationalists, are intelligent and have a great sense of humor. Women usually fall for this combo.

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Places to Take Your Date On The First Meet

Gone those days when you were required to take the person to expensive restaurants on the first date, the scenario has changed and people’s mentality has changed as well. The places you are going to visit on your first date with a person should be suitable for the kind of conversation you are planning to have.

Let’s have a look at some of the best places to have your first date at.

A coffee shop

A coffee shop is the best place to have your first date, it provides you a lot of peaceful time to have detailed discussion on many different things. If you are seriously looking to know the person better then you should take them for a coffee, a good coffee date will give you an idea about whether the person deserves the second meet or not.

Meet up at a popular bar

Coffee is for the casual date, if you are looking to make your date a bit special then you can visit a popular bar. A bar is a great place to have intense communication and it also provides you the opportunity to know more about the person, little boozing always helped me relieve my first date anxiety and made me more confident about myself.

Attend a sporting event

Not having sufficient content for a date? Then a sporting event can be the best solution for you. Going to a sporting event of your interest can help you know each other while supporting your home team.

Go to a concert

Not have much to establish good communication but not interested in any sports event as well? Then visiting a concert is the best thing you can do. Life music concert or stand-up comedy events can be a great way to spend some quality time together.

Do anything competitive

Doing anything competitive helps you establish great teamwork and also help you know the true character of a person when they lose or win. Doing things like go-karting or Bowling or playing random games can help you spend some fun time while knowing better about the person.

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Avoid these first date pitfalls

Having landed that first date, for a lot of us the anxiety only starts to begin. To alleviate the stress somewhat, here are some handy tips to follow to ensure the first date is as comfortable and successful as possible.

1.      Be punctual

Nothing sets the tone for a less than impressive night than a date who can’t be bothered to show up on time. Avoid this pitfall by planning and committing to arriving early. You never know what delays life can throw in your way, so prepare for something to trip you up and you’ll be fashionably early.

2.      Don’t just let them talk

couple talking on a date

A common misnomer, it is a very silly idea to commit to just listening and steering the conversation back to your date over the course of the evening. This will simply make it look like you have nothing interesting to talk about and will not leave a lasting impression on your date.

3.      Leave the politics out of it

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When you do decide to converse make sure that you leave any political views and beliefs at home with the dog. The first date is not the time to delve deep into your political opinions. Firstly, it can be a boring topic of conversation for somebody who does not share similar interests in the political landscape. Secondly, it can be confrontational and cause arguments if your date does not share the same opinion. Save it for a later date,

4.      Talking about failed relationships

Do not, I repeat do not, talk about past relationship failures. This is not a counseling session and you are not looking for sympathy. You want to put your best foot forward and convey a confident person. Sure, this topic will arise at some stage during the dating courtship but keep night one about topics relating to you and your current company.

5.      Don’t expect a kiss

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There is every likelihood that the date might end up with a kiss but avoid angling for one. If it happens you want it to happen naturally. Don’t set up the scenario whereby your date will feel obliged to lean in. There is nothing wrong with a date that ends without you and your partner kissing on the first date. There is plenty of time to lock lips at a later stage if the situation doesn’t evolve naturally.

6.      Don’t be aggressive in your follow-up

 man texting woman from back of a taxi cab

It is natural to want to immediately schedule in another date, but you also want to give your date a bit of space before doing this. The last thing you want is for your date to feel pressured into committing to a second meet. A person who is confident yet okay with nothing happening is sexy, so try giving your date a bit of space prior to re-engaging. Don’t call or text in the cab ride home. Please.

Tips for men wanting first date success

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For men, when it comes to setting out on your first date, it is normal to be nervous and apprehensive yet excited at the same time. Such conflicting emotions as you try and identify what women want in a man can often lead to a date that you’ll quickly want to forget! Below are some tips we have devised to ensure your first date is a roaring success:

Be Yourself


While it may be tempting to present a ‘better’ version of yourself when arriving on a first date it is far more relaxing and less stressful to just be yourself. Besides, if the date is going to move forward into a second or third isn’t it going to get tiring to keep trying to ‘up your game’? Plus, showing your real self will leave you in no doubt that she truly likes you for who you are if it does reach the 2nd date stage.


Leave yourself plenty of time


Nothing leads to increased stress and an uncomfortable dating experience more than arriving late. Often not the intention, there are always some hidden variables that can get in the way of a prompt arrival. Whether stuck in traffic, late leaving work or another reason, even with the best intentions you can get held up. Therefore, eliminate the risks by ensuring you arrive at least 15-30 minutes early and that way you’ll have some wiggle room.

Avoid the mundane


One great way to leave a lasting impression and to ensure that you won’t be overly nervous is to do something unique and enjoyable. For example, a joint kayak date on a river will be something fresh and enjoyable that will involve team-work, being active and soaking in the sun. This will not only avoid a more stressful and dull environment such as a restaurant but will also enable you to get more of an insight into your date’s energy levels and personality.

Try an earlier dating time


Whilst often dates take place in the evening, an afternoon or lunchtime date can have some hidden benefits that will reduce stress and anxiety. An evening meetup may raise the thought in her head “Is he going to ask me to come home with him?” which can add another layer of pressure that a first date does not need. By meeting earlier, not only do you both have the whole day ahead of you if the chemistry is present, but you’ll also avoid any end-of-date awkward cognitive thought processes that may arise.

What do you think? Will you apply these ideas when on your next first date? Have you any other ideas on ways to make the first date experience less stressful? Let us know!