woman leans in for kiss and is rejected by man

Avoid these first date pitfalls

Having landed that first date, for a lot of us the anxiety only starts to begin. To alleviate the stress somewhat, here are some handy tips to follow to ensure the first date is as comfortable and successful as possible.

1.      Be punctual

Nothing sets the tone for a less than impressive night than a date who can’t be bothered to show up on time. Avoid this pitfall by planning and committing to arriving early. You never know what delays life can throw in your way, so prepare for something to trip you up and you’ll be fashionably early.

2.      Don’t just let them talk

couple talking on a date

A common misnomer, it is a very silly idea to commit to just listening and steering the conversation back to your date over the course of the evening. This will simply make it look like you have nothing interesting to talk about and will not leave a lasting impression on your date.

3.      Leave the politics out of it

 politicians in a cartoon debate

When you do decide to converse make sure that you leave any political views and beliefs at home with the dog. The first date is not the time to delve deep into your political opinions. Firstly, it can be a boring topic of conversation for somebody who does not share similar interests in the political landscape. Secondly, it can be confrontational and cause arguments if your date does not share the same opinion. Save it for a later date,

4.      Talking about failed relationships

Do not, I repeat do not, talk about past relationship failures. This is not a counseling session and you are not looking for sympathy. You want to put your best foot forward and convey a confident person. Sure, this topic will arise at some stage during the dating courtship but keep night one about topics relating to you and your current company.

5.      Don’t expect a kiss

woman leans in for kiss and is rejected by man

There is every likelihood that the date might end up with a kiss but avoid angling for one. If it happens you want it to happen naturally. Don’t set up the scenario whereby your date will feel obliged to lean in. There is nothing wrong with a date that ends without you and your partner kissing on the first date. There is plenty of time to lock lips at a later stage if the situation doesn’t evolve naturally.

6.      Don’t be aggressive in your follow-up

 man texting woman from back of a taxi cab

It is natural to want to immediately schedule in another date, but you also want to give your date a bit of space before doing this. The last thing you want is for your date to feel pressured into committing to a second meet. A person who is confident yet okay with nothing happening is sexy, so try giving your date a bit of space prior to re-engaging. Don’t call or text in the cab ride home. Please.